What if the thing standing between you and the business — or life — you want isn’t skill, experience, or money… but the way you talk to yourself? Confidence coach Emily Stevens joins me to unpack why so many talented women hold themselves back, how to stop “shoulding” all over yourself, and the small daily shifts that build real, lasting confidence from the inside out.
HIGHLIGHTS
• Stop “shoulding” yourself — it sets up expectations that aren’t even yours
• Confidence comes from self-trust, and self-trust is built through small daily actions
• “Outsourcing your confidence” to loved ones is one of the biggest confidence killers
• Self-compassion is the #1 indicator of self-esteem — science backs it up
• One bad appointment doesn’t equal a wrong career — that’s catastrophic thinking
• Confidence on camera is a skill, not a talent — you get better by doing it
• When women build themselves up, they stop competing and start collaborating
CHAPTERS
0:00 Meet Emily Stevens
1:10 Confidence for New Owners
1:59 Women and Confidence Myths
3:02 Stop Shoulding Yourself
4:31 Building Self Trust Fast
6:12 Action Creates Confidence
7:54 Support Systems and Doubts
9:43 Outsourcing Your Confidence
11:24 Self Compassion Practice
13:06 Confidence vs Self Esteem
14:32 Money Mindset and Success
18:24 Values and Core Compass
19:18 Confidence Earlier in Life
22:52 Daily Confidence Habits
23:53 Stop Catastrophic Thinking
24:36 Reframe With Self Compassion
26:09 Three For Me Framework
27:59 Collaboration Over Competition
31:15 You Are The Genius
34:43 Confidence On Camera
39:57 Closing And Contact Info
RESOURCES
• Laid Back Achievers — Emily’s website with all courses, socials, and contact info: https://www.laidbackachievers.com
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